Performance Anxiety

Curing Performance Anxiety

Interestingly, sexual performance anxiety occurs usually with men who are fairly confident and sure of themselves otherwise. There’s an ironical cause-effect scenario playing out here.

You are an otherwise confident man expecting great success from everything you do. And then the time comes in the bedroom with special someone that you have been pursuing for a while. And all of a sudden, something seems to be wrong. You are having an anxiety attack.
The reason is simple – the high expectations from yourself and suddenly finding yourself in uncharted territory.

And the solution is preparation. You prepare by gaining information about the usual reasons behind performance anxiety in the bedroom.

“Pleasing her” is one of the biggest pressure men have. It stems from lack of understanding how the female mind works. Yes they need and want pleasure too – but normally they need tenderness and love a lot more than an explosive orgasm in their first encounter. And if they are really planning on having their life’s first orgasm while on their first night with you, let them figure out the “how” themselves. You don’t know what’s going on in her mind – so let it go. Just let go of all your dreaded anxiety about performance, relax and enjoy her company and do what comes naturally.

The other possible reason for your anxiety is something that has been debated to death. Size matters, or does it not? No matter what your girl thinks, you can still give her a great time in bed. Be loving, show her that you care, engage in extended foreplay and experiment oral sex. You can’t do much about the size of your penis and there’s really no reason to start sweating in anxiety, speculating what she would think about your performance. You are not in a ball game, you are with the girl you love, so keep loving and all your anxiety will dissolve.